No Blame

When you plant lettuce, if it does not grow well, you don't blame the lettuce.

You look for reasons it is not doing well.

It may need fertilizer, or more water, or less sun. You never blame the lettuce.Y

et if we have problems with our friends or family, we blame the other person.

But if we know how to take care of them, they will grow well, like the lettuce.

Blaming has no positive effect at all, nor does trying to persuade using reason and arguments.

That is my experience. No blame, no reasoning, no argument, just uderstanding.


by Thich Nhat Hahn

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well said.
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if we all understood each other - man, what a concept.
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